Thursday, March 12, 2009

Pre-marital Counseling- Session 1



M and I made the decision that we really wanted to do pre-marital counseling. Some people may be wondering why on earth we would want to put ourselves through that...and my answer has to be why not!? Almost every person on my side of the family has been divorced and not that it's a bad thing, it's just something I have no plans in doing. Since this will be my one and only marriage I want it to be the most healthy and strong thing out there. I want us to grow together and talk about things that we may be uncomfortable talking about otherwise.


And we hit the ground running in our very first session! The pastor in M's church most happly agreed to do our counseling and our wedding for no cost! How awesome! We started out talking about why we wanted to get married, what first attracted us to the other, and what we wanted to work on "relationally" (I wasn't sure if that was a word but I went with it). It was quite the conversation. I found out that we both feel like we can't live without each other and he was first attracted to my smile! ***insert awwwwww here*** But it's not all gonna be all roses. We aren't perfect humans and I'm counting on us having some conflicts, I know it's going to help us grow together. For instance I'm an only child and I'm used to having things my way...my money is my money...I'm not going to like to share or have to tell someone when I buy my Seven's. M is a little competitive and can get a little worked up about small things like sports, if something on his computer doesn't work, etc. So once again we aren't perfect, and I don't expect us to become perfect.
But I know this will give us a way to talk about money, kids, family, and life altogether with an impartial ear. I figured a great way to remember these sessions would be to talk about them here...anybody else deciding to do pre-marital counseling or are we the only crazy ones?!

4 comments:

Miss. Pretty said...

I think it's a very good idea to do counseling before marriage. I'm the same way with people on my side of the fam. are divorced..including my parents. And I'm also an only child that is used to getting MY way, ha.

Good Luck with the rest of the sessions!

Nat said...

My church makes us do precana which is bascially pre-marital counseling. We have 4 sessions starting at the end of April, at first I was totally against it but now I think it will be good because it will put everything out on the table which I think is important.

august15bride said...

We actually had our third pre-marital session today. I think it is a GREAT idea, and as a former divorce attorney, I think it is absolutely essential based on what I have seen!

alanna said...

i think it's SUCH a good idea! why not, right? my parents have been married for 27 years, but i know not everyone is so lucky. i also am pretty sure that catholics have to do something like that anyway, so i think it's in my (potentially far away) future.